April 26, 2016
The Insider’s Guide To IVF: A Resource Page For National Infertility Awareness Week
I LOVE reading articles by Dr. David Sable, not only for the Reproductive Endocrinologist’s insider’s input he provides, but for how he champions us as the strong, determined, resilient, supportive patients and community we are. This is a great list of links to his articles.
My favorite excerpt tonight is this one (including one of the BEST LINES I’ve ever heard from an RE: “I am prepared to wrap my pudgy little fingers around the neck of the the next critic who says within my earshot that women or couples undergoing infertility treatment are satisfying some vain need to have it all.”):
How The Maslow Hierarchy of Needs Explains IVF Patients
I have never had a patient miss an appointment due to bad weather.
My patients skip meals and miss enormous amounts of sleep due to their treatment schedules.
They frequently run afoul of expectations of family, employers and friends for the sake of their treatment.
Clearly, infertility patients are driven by a deep and instinctive motivation.
After watching my patients brave the worst northeastern blizzards to make it to monitoring visits, withstand — even volunteer for — repeats of painful procedures if they may contribute to their outcomes, invite repeated needle proddings and place job concerns, home repairs, car repairs and the closest of friendships on hold (all that unnecessary higher level Maslow stuff), I am prepared to wrap my pudgy little fingers around the neck of the the next critic who says within my earshot that women or couples undergoing infertility treatment are satisfying some vain need to have it all.
My patients are amongst the most level-headed, thoughtful and intelligent people I know.
But it wasn’t until I realized that the motivating goal of infertility treatment is not one that can be erased by cycles that don’t work or high FSH levels.
One may not buy a suit if the store doesn’t have the right size.
But you don’t stop feeling hungry just because there’s no food within walking distance.
So it is with infertility. Just because I don’t have the right treatment for a given problem, because I cannot yet replace a more fragile, older set of eggs with a younger, hardier set, because I cannot make new sperm if the basic building block germ cell is absent, does not mean I’ll ever be able to convince a couple who want their own baby that that wish should go away.
Thank you, and your pudgy little fingers, Dr. Sable!!